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Thursday, November 02, 2006
I know i havent been updating for a looooong time.... so sorry peeps...
and i wud like to say sorry to the owner of the blog tt im going to copy the post to....
i had to cos the post is so so so so true... my apologies
I was watching a taiwan variety show and they mentioned about how easy it is for a couple to quarrel. A quarrel can start off simply by saying things that were not meant to hurt each other intentionally, but instead to show him/her that you detest something. One of the Taiwan Celebrity - Gao Ling Feng is best known for his playboy-ness in the past and that he actually divorce 3 times. He's pretty much experienced in relationship. Which rich guy in the world doesn't play with ladies? He must be a nut - a nut that we should salute to!He is now married with a young woman, who's probably 20 years or so younger than he is. So naturally, he dotes her a lot. However, he said something which I guess most women in the world will agree"In a relationship, somebody has to always give in willingly. Someone has to play a role where quarrels can be prevented. Which I think, in my opinion, guys should be the one. My wife get agitated pretty easily, and at times when I asked her certain questions like 'why are you wearing this dress', she'd say things like 'you think it's not nice, so I couldn't wear it?". Now you see how easy a quarrel can start. But! I love her and I think as a man, I have to coax the one I love without provoking her any further. I then told her "wear it, wear it cos I think it looks fabulous on you!"He is a gentleman, I must say! Which woman on earth hates to be praised? He too said that he is the one giving in most of the time, although sometimes he is quite pissed with his wife. He said "What to do? Afterall she's someone I love! I have the responsibilty to make her feel that she's the most blessed woman in the world." Next, another celebrity (a woman), is pretty experienced in love too. They were having this group discussion of Love and Relationship between woman and guys. Both gender point out their view, which sounded very logical.She said things like, "I'd rather be single if my man couldn't scarifice more than I do. We as women are simple. We don't ask much from a guy except that he has to be forgiving, and that he's willing to scarifice more than we do." And well, she is now happily married with a guy for many years.Another said, "Of course I want my man to earn more than I do. What's the point of getting married to him when I have to pay for the house and expenses? It's not going to work well in this case. If we have to be together with such a guy, then that a definite answer that I'd rather be single. I can feed myself even without the help of him! I guess guys should have the basic ego that they ought to support their wife."Communication is the principal building block of any relationship, but communication isn't just about expressing a thought. It's also about understanding what your partner is saying and conveying, back to them, that you understand. It need not be conveying back to them verbally, but also it can be done physically. Oh, ever heard of "Action speaks louder than words"?Another male celebrity said, "It's important as a man to know what our woman is thinking and what she wants from us. In the past I had few dates and I was still very confused with what women were thinking about sometimes. They'd often say things which actually doesn't mean it that way. For example I asked her whether she wanted to go for a movie with me on our first date, and she replied 'Oh no, I'm busy, maybe next time.' And I simply said 'Oh well, ok.' Damn me, I must be stupid! Women are easy to handle if you know what they are thinking. Just remember, they often say things that meant the opposite!"Another example can be - Kenny and June (names used are based on imagination) have been together for 4 years and Kenny decided to propose to her. He brings her to a jewelry shop and acted like as though he needs his girlfriend help to choose a diamond ring for his Mom on her birthday. June isn't stupid, she knows what's going on. (Women's instinct are pretty accurate!) So they started looking around and saw a 1 caret's diamond ring and another with 3 caret's. Kenny asked her which one she thinks is nicer, she said humbly that she thinks that the 1 caret's is nicer. At the end of the day, they went to a posh restaurant and he started to propose to her. Shockingly, when she opened the box, she saw the 1 caret ring but was angry and she walked off. It left Kenny in suspense and he was confused with what was going on!Do you understand why? lol!Well, all these are basically an inspiration from what I watched on the tv recently. Somewhat I think it does relate closely to how a men and women should/should not do and how they should communicate in order to avoid quarrels!
1:10 AM
the scent still lingers
